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Oct 29Liked by Alexander J. Porter

PTSD is my monster. Thanks for your perspective. I let mine in 5 years ago. Almost killed myself in the process. I don't think the monsters WANT to win. They WANT to be known so we can befriend them.

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I like that interpretation, Heidi. I think I absolutely agree with you.

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Oct 29Liked by Alexander J. Porter

That's a fab pieçe of writing, thank you 😊. It's other monsters that have stalked my waking and 'sleeping' hours for a very long time...you are right, they don't disappear if we open the door. But I'm learning that it's a start...

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Thanks for the kind words, Janey! I hope you find a way to manage your monster, you deserve all the good things 🙌

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Therapy, though I have rolled my eyes at 'such extravagant nonsense' for years, has been REALLY helpful 😊

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Oct 29Liked by Alexander J. Porter

I let my monster sleep under the bed with my favorite blankie, except when its cold.

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You're generous with your blankie and your monster should be damn lucky for it!

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Oct 29Liked by Alexander J. Porter

I love this. What else needs to be said?❤️

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I'm touched by your kind comment, so I'm very happy with those words 😀

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Oct 29Liked by Alexander J. Porter

Thanks so much for sharing. I’ve found myself in a battle with anxiety too over the past couple of years.

As you said, we can outrun or avoid some things, but we cannot outrun ourselves (wherever you go, there you are).

Be well 🙏🏻✌🏻

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Here's to winning our personal battles, Dean. Much love for Mr. Love. 🙌

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And to you. Take care. Wishing you continued good health.

(My wife has just finished a year of chemotherapy and radiation treatments to deal with uterine cancer. Her scans are clear and I’m so grateful. But thoughts of it are never far away).

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Your family has been in the wars! Scan-xiety is real and a major mental obstacle, I'm so happy everything is clear my man, that's so awesome.

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Oct 29Liked by Alexander J. Porter

Thank u for sharing this I related so heavily to the anxiety monster analogy. Lots of things going on under the surface I push away until they could quite literally kill me 💀👀 nothing spookier than that lol adulting is hard. Moving into a season of prioritizing my physical health for my mental health 🙏🏽 this was so helpful dude ty

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Amen to that season, Liz. I hope it's a bright and sunny one 😊

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Oct 29Liked by Alexander J. Porter

God damn man. I just wrote a piece about how I’m too depressed to read, and as soon as I posted it, I saw this. What a way to put my whining ass in check.

This is beautiful, and so vulnerable.

P.S. fuck those pizza parties 😆

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Bad bosses and their God damn pizza parties, haha.

I'm gonna start my own pizza parties as a protest - and you're invited!!!

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9 hrs agoLiked by Alexander J. Porter

Yessssss!!! I’ll be there 😆

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Oct 29Liked by Alexander J. Porter

I’m so familiar with this feeling, as I have a child with suicidal ideation. It’s a sceptre that’s always with you. Acknowledging and accepting it is the first step toward healing. Thanks for sharing this.

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That must be incredibly challenging, Amy - I'm sorry to hear that and hope your brave openness about it can be the first step to healthy, meaningful change. I'm rooting for you!

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